When to Make Your Move and When NOT To I haven’t met too many guys that don’t know what it is like to feel as though they are in love with a female friend. As guys, we get caught in the friend zone way too easily, and usually once that happens, there is no way out. That does not mean that it cannot be done, what it does mean though, is that you really have to be careful that you don’t let yourself fall into that friend zone in the first place. What if you are already there, though, and you want to be able to get out of the friend category and get her to see you the way that you see her?
Turning a female friend into a girlfriend or trying to make her fall in love has a lot to do with your timing AND the way that you make her feel when she is around you. Make her feel too comfortable (yes, this is possible), and she will always see you as that buddy type and there is no way getting around that until you change it so that she feels a little tension when she is with you.
Your timing is also important, because if you try and turn her into your girlfriend too soon or too fast, you are more than likely going to just mess the situation up, and you are not going to get what you want. For example, if you decide that today you are going to change her from a friend into a girlfriend and tomorrow you approach her and say that you want to date her, she will almost be guaranteed to say NO to you.
So, when should you make a move on a female friend and when should you just hold back?
You should hold back when you first get that feeling that you want to turn her around, because 99 times out of 100, you are going to get so excited and pumped up about the hopes that she does feel the same way about you, that you are going to rush her into making a decision BEFORE you change the way that she feels about you.
That is when you are going to get that “I just don’t feel that way about you” speech.
You should make your move only after you have created some distance from her and you have changed the way that you appear and act around her. No longer can you be the guy that tells her all your thoughts and feelings, and no longer can you be the guy that comforts her when she is struggling with guys. You have to know become that guy that flirts with her, does not go too deep too fast, and does things to keep her on her toes and attracted to you.
Only then can you think about making your move and changing her mind so that she sees you as a guy she wants to be MORE than friends with.